As chief deputy executive of Suffolk County, it is Regina Calcaterra's job to regulate, not just post-disaster funding, but any government resources her county receives. Etched In Sand arrived yesterday- I was up into the wee hours of the morning to finish this beautifully written, compelling memoir. p. 5. I don't even know where to start with this. Page: 320. etched in sand a true story of five siblings who survived an unspeakable childhood on long island. A mother's favoritism and selfishness leave her children mentally and physically hurt. Etched in Sand was voted St. Petersburg College’s One Book – One College selection this year and I was privileged to spend time with the author following her presentation at the college’s Clearwater, FL campus. Though grim, this story plays as a reminder that even one kind adult in a child’s life can impact them in an enormous way. Though it is Regina who tells her story, she has 4 other siblings who share a horrible life as well. Doesn't the words to a poem supposedly written by the author sound so similar to the words penned by Woody Guthrie "You've Got to Walk That Lonesome Valley"???? I was going to give this book four stars but I know it will stay with me for a long time. Each story is horrific and moving with a unique version of living hell. You will never again take your toothpaste and brush for granted. When I was young we used to sing that in music class. You might think this was in some far-off country, but no it was in NY. Regina Calcaterra's emotionally honest and reflective memoir recounts how she and her four siblings survived an abusive and painful childhood, caring for one another while enduring a series of foster homes and intermittent homelessness - all in the shadows between Manhattan and the Hamptons. A mother's favoritism and selfishness leave her children mentally and physically hurt. Revisiting a horrid past can be almost as damaging as living it! Regina’s Calcaterra memoir, Etched in Sand, is an inspiring and triumphant coming-of-age story of tenacity and hope. Despite the extreme poverty and constant abuse from her mother, a fragmented education and unpredictable housing, Regina was able to help raise herself, and her siblings, to become stable adults and parents. View: 761. Yes! Regina and her four siblings su… My siblings consented to the publication of Etched in. Just feast your eyes upon all of these debut books to check out and emerging authors to... Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. 1 Bitten Bones. Is she a mother? Regina Calcaterra’s memoir Etched in Sand, A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island (HarperCollins Publishing, 2013) is a #1 international best-seller and a New York Times best-seller. p. ix. Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. This title was masterfully authored by Regina Calcaterra, who is a prominent lawyer, New York State government official, and activist for children's rights. Her painful early life, however, was quite different. Regina and her four siblings survived an abusive and painful childhood only to find themselves faced with the challenges of the foster-care system and intermittent homelessness in the shadows of Manhattan and the Hamptons. The book exposes the inadequacies of our social and economic safety net, and highlights the vital role played public schools and libraries as safe havens and support. Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. “Weren’t you eleven last”, “On the days that feel dark and endless, I make myself a simple promise: I’ll get out of bed in the morning. Fortunately for them she regularly abandons them for long periods of time. I was surprised to see it used in the book as if the lyrics were written by--well, I can't. The beginning of this was particularly good and I think it could have been a better memoir with tighter editing. Do the readers ever find out, did I miss it? Enjoy the videos and music you love, upload original content, and share it all with friends, family, and the world on YouTube. What is the author's attitude towards foster care? Regina M. Calcaterra (born 1966) is an American attorney, a founding partner of Calcaterra Pollack LLP law firm, and a New York Times best-selling author. Part of the issue is the main story of her abuse and overcoming the abuse to build a good life is over way before the memoir is over. Regina speaks nationally about her books messages and how we can all impact the life of a child in need. Resilient, fiercely protective of each other, and remarkably wise scavengers, they discover means of survival independent of any parental support. “I’m thirteen—and a half.” He looks at me suspiciously. Regina Calcaterra, Esq. Despite what the authorities told her—she survived—finished high school, went to college while working several jobs, and became a lawyer. The book's a genuine tear-jerker. Readers have a lot to look forward to this year! by William Morrow Paperbacks. changing the rules of a food bank that now allow children to get food without requiring that they be accompanied by a parent; further developing the first program at a Long Island library that provides library cards for the homeless to allow them to access all of the library’s resources, although they do not have a permanent address; learning how we can all forever impact the life of a child in need although they may only be before us for a moment in time; and. Girl Unbroken has also been integrated into college curricula alongside Etched in Sand. ‎Regina’s Calcaterra memoir, Etched in Sand, is an inspiring and triumphant coming-of-age story of tenacity and hope. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island by Regina Calcaterra is the true story of the abuse and neglect the author and her siblings suffered through - at the hands of their mother and in a system that wasn't working as it should. p. 17. Reading this book is made tolerable only by the fact that the reader is informed in the Prologue that it has a happy ending—an example of survival beyond expectations from a horrendous childhood family environment. I will never say that I am too tired, or that I cannot do or take it anymore. Regina Calcaterra's powerful memoir, Etched In Sand, begins with her flying over the ravaged neighborhoods of Long Island following the hurricane, Super Storm Sandy. This book brings to light the heart-wrenching account of Calcaterra's indigent childhood, the complete failure of her mother to care for her and her siblings, but also the failure of the foster care and social services system that is called upon to manage such children. My Thoughts: Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island by Regina Calcaterra is the true story of the abuse and neglect the author and her siblings suffered through - at the hands of their mother and in a system that wasn't working as it should. Each story is horrific and moving with a unique version of living hell. As a result of Etched in Sand’s messages of resilience, optimism, the plight of foster children, that no child is a lost cause and how we can all positively impact the life of a child in need, it has been integrated into college and high school curricula throughout the U.S. and been selected for community reads. Regina Calcaterra’s emotionally powerful memoir reveals how she endured a series of foster homes and intermittent homelessness in the shadow of the Hamptons, and how she rose above her past while fghting to keep her brother and three sisters together. I don't even know where to start with this. The lyrics in the book were almost exactly those in the song. Did it make you realize something that you perhaps took for granted? Who is Regina Calcaterra? Category: Biography & Autobiography. She decided to share her incredible child story in the memoir Etched in Sand. A remarkable story of these five children who managed to grow into strong adults by creating a family unit within themselves and with their determination to protect it from their abusive mother or separation from social services. The book became a bestseller around the globe. Constantly siding with Cookie even with all the evidence???? It was really amazing to read this book where there are so many bad things going on and to see that good things can still come out of the bad. Beautifully written, with heartbreaking honesty, Etched in Sand is an unforgettable reminder that regardless of social status, the American Dream is still within reach for those who have the desire and the determination to succeed. Regina Calcaterra opens our eyes to what is right in front of us and yet invisible due to indifference and ignorance. This had to have been a very difficult book for the author to write. This is one of those books where the subject matter is incredibly intense but you will be absolutely drawn to this story. My new hero is Regina Calcaterra, a proud Long Islander, who rises to the top despite every misgiving that could be thrown at a child. The story continues to … I hope her telling sheds more light on the needs of so many children! Sometimes left on their own, with no food, no heat in the winter, in and out of foster care (sometimes good but mostly bad) how they ever survived is beyond me. A true-life rags-to-riches story, Etched in Sand chronicles Regina’s rising above her past, while fighting to keep her brother and three sisters together through it all. In Etched in Sand, Regina Calcaterra recounts in vivid, simple prose the misery and chaos she and her three sisters and a brother faced living with their brutal mother, and too often without her as for months at a time they would have to fend for themselves. Start by marking “Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island” as Want to Read: Error rating book. I loved this book. Sounds fancy? Though it is Regina who tells her story, she has 4 other siblings who share a horrible life as well. View Regina’s Upcoming Appearances. Morrow, $15.99 trade paper (283p) ISBN 978-0-06-221883-4 It makes a wonderful story when children from this sort of background are able to thrive as adults. Regina Calcaterra’s memoir Etched in Sand, A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island (HarperCollins Publishing, 2013) is a #1 international best-seller and a New York Times best-seller. This book, written by Regina Calceterra is about the lives of her three sisters and brother growing up with an alcoholic and an extremely emotionally, mentally and physically abusive mother. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island Kindle Edition by Regina Calcaterra (Author) Regina has received numerous awards and honors in her legal career and for her advocacy of efforts such as being awarded the 2020 Trailblazer Award by the National Law Journal; one of the 2020 leading 500 Financial Plaintiff Attorney’s in America by LawDragon; the Champion of Civil Rights & Social Justice Award (City & State NY, 2018); Women of Substance Award (Seton Hall Law School, 2018); and the Lifetime Achievement Award (Primi-Dieci Society and the Italy-American Chamber of Commerce, 2015). They are often homeless, hungry, abandoned for many weeks at a time, in and out of school as they move from place to place. Prologue. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island. A true-life rags-to-riches story, Etched in Sand chronicles Regina’s rising above her past, while fighting to keep her brother and three sisters together through it all. In the highly anticipated sequel to her New York Times bestseller Etched in Sand, Regina Calcaterra pairs with her youngest sister Rosie to tell Rosie’s harrowing, yet ultimately triumphant, story of childhood abuse and survival. Yes! It tells the story of five siblings dealing with an abusive, addicted mother who often left them to fend for themselves in trailer parks, abandoned homes, and homeless shelters. Calcaterra's career in public service is not accidental; growing up with four siblings and an abusive, neglectful, alcoholic mother and an ineffective foster child system, Regina was determined to make a difference. Yes, in the end, they come back to each other and find a way for all 5 siblings to be a family again, but the p. Heartbreak, abuse, and a broken system are what you find in this book. She and her four siblings are beaten, starved and do a better job of raising each other than when Cookie(they refuse to call her mom) stays home,. The system has failed these children several times and does not have to answer to the harm they caused. Girl Unbroken has also been integrated into college curricula alongside Etched in Sand. I am still curious what happened in Cookie's past. Her professional legal bio can be found at this, Regina has received numerous awards and honors in her legal career and for her advocacy of efforts such as being awarded the. See all 7 questions about Etched in Sand…, Over 35 List: Books You Most Want to Read in 2015, Suzanne Leopold (Suzy Approved Book Reviews). Regina Calcaterra, who is now a highly successful public advocate lawyer involved in NYS Government, courageously shares the painful, desperate world of her impoverished childhood in suburban Long Island. Regina Calcaterra : "Etched in Sand" / Regina Calcaterra; sponsored by the Reading/BEP Department Call Number: Video HV885.L66 C35 2016 Recorded live at Nassau Community College on November 8, 2016. Her professional legal bio can be found at this link. Let us know what’s wrong with this preview of, Published We’d love your help. Etched in Sand and Girl Unbroken have resulted in readers and those who have heard Regina speak: Copyright © 2021 Regina Calcaterra | Website Design, a 100% woman owned law firm that specializes in complex federal and state litigation representing public entities, labor health and welfare funds, businesses, and individuals. Though separated from the late Maya Angelou by age, race and geography, Regina Calcaterra is emerging as a next generation icon. She is a partner at Wolf Haldenstein Adler Freeman & Herz and is a passionate advocate for children in foster care. Regina Calcaterra is best known as a top professional attorney and official in the state of New York. Well, currently, she is the Chief Deputy Executive of Suffolk County. Why didn’t an editor or agent with with this woman to help shape the book? Her painful early life, however, was quite different. by regina calcaterra ‧ release date: aug. 6, 2013 I don't know where to start this review other than to say this isn't a book for the faint of heart. Child Welfare and Education Board/Committee Membership, becoming Court Appointed Special Advocates and/or. The book became New York Times bestseller when released two years ago. Author’s Note ETCHED IN SAND is the true story of the experiences I shared with my siblings from our childhood to the present day. "Etched in Sand" tells a haunting biography of the author's childhood through mistreatment, abuse, and homelessness. A true-life rags-to-riches story, Etched in Sand chronicles Regina’s rising above her past, while fighting to keep her brother and three sisters together through it all. Refresh and try again. They experienced so much damage, mentally and physically from those closest to them, yet they have grown up to be so much more than their backgr. Having had a very difficult childhood, as outlined in my memoir, The Pale-Faced Lie, I felt for Regina and her siblings with an empathy that only a wounded child could know. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island - Ebook written by Regina Calcaterra. It could have ended with her first job, quickly summarized her adult life- possibly with a focus on her role as a leader in Long Island. Hat's off all of them. This book, written by Regina Calceterra is about the lives of her three sisters and brother growing up with an alcoholic and an extremely emotionally, mentally and physically abusive mother. Call me cold-hearted but I just didn't buy into this story. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island (2013) by high-powered attorney Regina Calcaterra is a memoir of her extremely abusive childhood and the path she and her sisters took toward success. Is Cookie? Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. Their mother "Cookie" is a violent, abusive obstacle that makes survival much harder as she spends the little money they acquire on her own destructive needs. Regina Calcaterra's powerful memoir, Etched In Sand, begins with her flying over the ravaged neighborhoods of Long Island following the hurricane, Super Storm Sandy. Regina’s Calcaterra memoir, Etched in Sand, is an inspiring and triumphant coming-of-age story of tenacity and hope. Regina’s Calcaterra memoir, Etched in Sand, is an inspiring and triumphant coming-of-age story of tenacity and hope. Then I’ll head up the hill to class. And it really just affirms my personal belief that you shouldn't be a. I don't know where to start this review other than to say this isn't a book for the faint of heart. But it had none of these and so I read a little, then skimmed, then put it in a pile of stuff to give away. The older kids in turn had to become surrogate parents for their younger siblings, learning street survival, occasionally going into foster care with varying degrees of comfort. Table of Contents. Calcaterra's career in public service is not accidental; growing up with four siblings and an abusive, neglectful, alcoholic mother and an ineffective foster child. In a reading challenge I am doing for this site, I needed to read a book that featured SAND on the cover- I know, right? Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island Paperback – August 6, 2013 by Regina Calcaterra (Author) However, ... we’d build sand castles by the water, or etch out all five of our names Th. 11. Author: Regina Calcaterra. Ok, if I see the phrase "mia bambina amore" one more time I might throw up. Etched in Sand: A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island by Regina Calcaterra is the true story of the abuse and neglect the author and her siblings suffered through - at the hands of their mother and in a system that wasn't working as it should. Wonderful. "Etched in Sand" blew me away! To see what your friends thought of this book, I will never say that I am too tired, or that I cannot do or take it anymore. She is the middle child of 5 siblings of 5 different but absent fathers, who suffer the abuses of their mentally ill, alcoholic and drug addicted single mother. Read it in one sitting! p. 1. It is absolutely amazing how the author of this book and her siblings rose above their tragic childhood! Did Etched in Sand change your idea of childhood, and of family? As chief deputy executive of Suffolk County, it is Regina Calcaterra's job to regulate, not just post-disaster funding, but any government resources her county receives. When I was young we used to sing that in music class. Regina and her siblings lived through such horrible things at the hands of their mother and they come out on the other side and are able to overcome their situation. [was how other family members, teachers, neighbors ANYONE never seemed to be able to help. I am ready to lump this one right alongside, Whenever I start to read a memoir about a difficult childhood, I think, well, it probably isn't going to be all that different from the others, and I'm invariably wrong. What I found particularly disheartening, [was how other family members, teachers, neighbors ANYONE never seemed to be. Many live right under our noses who are experiencing verbal, mental and physical abuse. Some comic relief, beautiful prose, a handle on your bitterness... anything. And it really just affirms my personal belief that you shouldn't be allowed to just have kids. Regina Calcaterra’s memoir Etched in Sand, A True Story of Five Siblings Who Survived an Unspeakable Childhood on Long Island (HarperCollins Publishing, 2013) is a #1 international best-seller and a New York Times best-seller. 12. Regina Calcaterra is a successful lawyer, New York State official, and activist. 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